Sunshine Blogger Award!

Sunshine Blogger Award!

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I’m so honored to have been nominated for the Sunshine Blogger Award by Lambam from Lambam’s World!. This New Year has started off very rough for me to say the least, and it’s been pretty hard for me most days to even muster up the energy to keep going with my blog. I’m so happy that I have continued to push, and get my thoughts out there to the world, and I’m grateful that what I have been publishing has been resonating in so many other people and fellow bloggers. It just gives me the strength to keep going, keep writing and keep my eye on the prize!

So with that said, huge THANK YOU to Lambam, and to everyone who has stopped by, commented, followed and shared my posts on iReminiss! If you guys only knew how hard it was for me to even get going with this and put myself out there, I was literally so scared! Make sure you check out Lambam’s blog, which I’ve linked above. She runs a blog that touches on fashion, lifestyle, beauty and motivation. It’s Sunday so go check out her new series Sunday Breeze where she shares some inspirational posts about God and what He can do for you. I’m excited to keep up with the series, as I love to hear how love for God impacts others in their daily lives. She is an inspiration to myself as I sure she is for many others!

Rules

  1. Thank the blogger who nominated you in your blog post and link back to her blog.
  2. Answer 11 questions that the Blogger asked  you.
  3. Nominate 11 new bloggers to receive the awards and write them 11 questions.
  4. List the rules and display the Sunshine blogger award logo in your post on your blog

Here are my answers to Lambam’s 11 questions for me:

  1. Are you an apple or an Android  person?    I’m an apple person!
  2. Is this your first blogging award ?    Yes, this is my first blogging award!
  3. what is your favorite post and why?    I think my favorite post on my blog thus far is Choose Your Vibe. This was a post that I published as the New Year was approaching, and I think that the things that I talked about were what I really wanted to take with me into the New Year. Not necessarily as a New Year’s resolution, but more so as things to continuously live by in life going forward.
  4. How do you stay positive?    I stay positive by praying and always remembering that there is so much to be grateful for in life, no matter how hard our lives may get. I try to smile regardless of what I am going through, and remember my goals and what it is that I am shooting for in life.
  5. What does the word Purpose mean to you?    To me, when I think of the word Purpose I think what did God put me on this Earth to accomplish? I think that every person we meet, job we take, situation we find ourselves in is for a reason. Bringing us closer to what our greater purpose is in this life.
  6. where do you see yourself in five years?    In 5 years, I see myself back in a big city like New York or Los Angeles, working in Mass Communication/ PR.
  7. How did you come with the name of your blog?    The name of my blog goes back to my Twitter days, when everyone was trying to find some clever name that nobody already had. I wanted something that would play off of my name Anissa, and most people who knew me back in High School called me Niss for short. Just like that I randomly thought of Reminiss like the word Reminisce. Its silly, but it stuck with me on all my social media channels. So when I thought of what I wanted the name of my blog to be, I wanted it to also follow along the same brand of my social media, but since my blog felt so much more personal I decided to make it iReminiss.
  8. How has blogging changed your life?    Blogging has changed my life in a lot of different ways. I feel like journaling has always been a part of me ever since I was young. Back in Middle School and High School my best friends and I used to keep conversation books and write notes to each other all the time as a way to really express ourselves through writing. And even at home by myself I felt like writing was a way to express myself and my many feelings.  Nobody really knew, because it was a part of me that I kept hidden from everyone out of fear that they’d find my secrets and think I was just absolutely depressed or something. I’ve always liked to write, but in my mind I wasn’t a good writer. I think that Blogging and more specifically WordPress has changed my life, because now I know that I’m not crazy or depressed for feeling a lot of the things that I feel and it’s comforting connecting with people who have gone through the same things. It’s taught me that my perception of what a good writer is, was all wrong. I had an English teacher in Middle School who always told us that thinking is writing, and I’ve kept that saying with me for so long, because it is.
  9. What is your dream brand to collaborate with?    At this moment, I don’t think I have a dream brand to collaborate with, mainly because I’m not so into brands. But that can change! I’d love to collaborate with a good blogger brand at some point.
  10. What is your favorite place to do “Me time”     My favorite place to do “me time” is at home. I like the comfort and familiarity of just being in my own room, or in my own bed like there’s no place I’d rather be to clear my mind.
  11. What do you want your readers to take away from your blog?    If there’s one thing that I want my readers to take away from my blog its to BE YOU. I think that in life, writing, branding yourself, in whatever, people are going to connect with you and relate to you if you stay true to who you are.

Thank you Lambam for giving me a chance to connect with other bloggers and letting my readers get to know me a little bit more! I loved these questions, they boggled my mind and got me thinking of new posts where I can expand on them!

Here are my 11 nominees:

  1. Whitney from whitneyibeblog.wordpress.com
  2. Beth from blogaboutit.org
  3. Qwania from naturalista4me.com
  4. Niki from nikimeadows.com
  5. Ciarra from ciarralorren.com
  6. Bea from Beafreee.com
  7. Sam from mylifewithoutreligion.com
  8. Paige from currentlylately.com
  9. Treszka from theoliverias.com
  10. Stormgirl from nightmumbles.com
  11. Bianca from ancalogy.com

I love all of your blogs!

Here are my 11 questions for you:

  1. Where are you from?
  2. What does your blogging space consist of?
  3. How do you overcome writer’s block?
  4. What inspired you to start blogging?
  5. What are some of your short term and long term career goals?
  6. How has blogging changed your life?
  7. What types of hobbies do you have besides blogging?
  8. Do you read? If so what types of books and who is your favorite author?
  9. How would the people closest to you describe who you are?
  10. What advice would you give your 16 year old self?
  11. What would you like your readers to take away from your blog?

I’m excited to read all of your responses! 

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-XoReminissy

 

 

Past, Pass, Path.

Past, Pass, Path.

I saw another good video on Facebook the other day, this one was 50 cent sharing his story with the world. I’ve always loved 50, because he’s open with the struggle that he comes from, he’s well spoken, and he used his struggle to fuel him into becoming the person and mogul he is today. I think his story is one that anyone can applaud. He went from growing up in the street, without his parents, overcoming a near death experience, to becoming a rapper, actor, millionaire. Like whaa? He says in the video that your past circumstances cannot define you and the key to success is believing in yourself, even when the odds are totally against you.

I grew up in a small town in Jersey, I think its safe to say that no one around me necessarily had it all. I was really receptive to the way that I grew up though, I knew the struggles that my mom went through to provide for us as a single parent and that’s where all of my ambition stems from. I wasn’t blessed as an athlete or musical genius, but I knew I was good at school. I knew from a young age that excelling in high school and going to college was going to be my way out. I wanted to be the one who broke the cycle, and I put a tremendous amount of pressure on myself to do well, because for me not being successful wasn’t an option.

Sometimes you have to use your circumstance to your advantage, go against the odds, and challenge the world’s expectation of who you’re supposed to be. If you’re a low income minority with good grades, take advantage of every scholarship, grant and program you can to go to school. Then push yourself to the limit so that you don’t become just another statistic. We all know the stigma surrounding the young 50 Cent: young black kid left with no parents destined for the streets, jail, or death. You decide what happens when you come close to your predestined situations, either you succumb or you decide to believe in yourself and be your own inspiration.

When you start feeling your calling, you have to decide to make the conscious effort to work on whatever that is every single day. You have to do what you have to do for the Man 9-5, then go home and work on your dreams. If you keep reminding yourself what it is that you’re working for, there’s no way that you won’t succeed. 50 said, ” I feel like you can will yourself into a good space. If you believe in yourself, things that are meant to be will.”

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“…you can will yourself into a good space. If you believe in yourself, things that are meant to be will.”

There’s so much truth in this, I believe that the mind is powerful and as long as you keep your mind on the prize you’ll make it. I don’t think anyone should ever get a pass for their past, because its your life’s experiences that shape you and give you a path to become someone greater than your circumstances. I think 50 is right when he says that he doesn’t regret anything, because how could you? We go through all things for a reason: to gain knowledge about the world, about ourselves, about people, about life. So let your past be a path for you, not a pass.

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-XoReminissy

Too Stressed to Repress.

Too Stressed to Repress.

Everybody’s always telling us to forgive and forget. Yea its cliche, but we’ve all battled with this at one time or another. I’ve had a lot of time to think this over and countless examples of how this idea has effected me in my daily life, but I think that I’ve finally started to figure it out. I think that forgiveness is a concept that you have to learn, work on, and continue to work on because its usually never something that’s easy to do. Its sometimes easier to move on and forget the things that cause us pain, because we feel like it hurts less this way, but does it actually hurt less?

Forgiving vs. Forgetting

Forgiving-  enables you to address issues or actions that are hurting you in order to be able to recover.

Forgetting- allows you to repress your feelings.

Repressed feelings are the worst kind. You’re just going about your day, minding your business, one thought leads to another, and then there they are creeping up from behind. Right when you thought you were over it, you’re fixated on all that you went through and suddenly you’re back where you started. I think you have to forgive to forget sometimes, because it’s only then that you can start to fully heal and release the burden of pain.

“Forgiveness is a constant battle between what the heart wants and what the mind won’t let you let go of.”

The art of forgiveness is a little selfish in a way, but when you reach your breaking point and realize that the stress of your feelings is consuming your life, why wouldn’t you choose yourself? It’s tricky because forgiveness is a constant battle between what the heart wants and what the mind won’t let you let go of. I mean, the heart wants what it wants, but how many times does your heart tell you to let go, and your subconscious keeps spitting up the repressed feelings? How many times do you claim to not care about something, but every time you’re upset it’s the first thing you blurt out through your tears?

Hmm, that’s when you know its time to let it go.

-XoReminissy

Check it Off.

Check it Off.

The New Year is here, but it seems like no matter how hard you tried to leave the stresses of 2017 behind they’re still lurking in the background, trying to make way. Don’t be dismayed, He said that this year wasn’t going to roll in stress free, its all in season in preparation for something great. Yes, it is true that life can get overwhelming at times and some days you feel like giving up. You get your day started early to leave work with a full day to spend, and yet it still seems like there’s so much to do and so little time. But it’s 2018, which means its time to do things a little bit differently!

Time to make a list and check it off!

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If you’re anything like me, the mere thought of doing multiple things after work gives me anxiety. Its like as soon as I think I’ve figured out what all I need to do, something else pops up! I recently started to make a daily “to do” list, and its helping me take a step back and put my day back into perspective. I lay it all out. I write out the phone calls, emails, errands, goals and organize them by what I can get done easiest to most annoying. Then once I’ve completed one, I check it off! You’d be surprised how much a little check mark can ease your mind and get you back on track, while also realizing that you didn’t have that much to do anyway! It’s all in your mind.

It gets harder in the winter months, as this weather can get you down. The days are short and the breeze feels so rigid and cold. The trees sway barren and the frost is just too much to bare. You’ll find that its all short lived. The seasons pass, the sun comes out, the grass gets greener and the flowers bloom from the barren branches. You have to take the toughest seasons day by day and check off one thing at a time!

-XoReminissy

Patience is a Virtue.

Patience is a Virtue.

I’ve been thinking about how growing up I never finished the things I started. I wasn’t really into sports per say, but I did love dance and cheer, and I actually did like softball and gymnastics when I tried it. I was flexible, I could move, I could be coached, I learned fast and I could remember routines. I never stuck with any of it and I regret it so bad, because all of the time and effort I did put into it went in vain. I didn’t give myself time to develop and now I’ll never know who I could’ve became.

I learned that patience is something I lack that I need more of. It’s like I’ll love to do something, and I aspire to be great at it, but it’s hard for me to endure the wait to greatness. I guess the stress of the idea of failure is scary for me, but no one successful at anything made it on an easy route. I saw a video Will Smith made about failure the other day, and he said that if you’re going to be successful at anything you’re going to have to accept and embrace the idea of failure. He said that you have to constantly push yourself to the limit in order to learn yourself and what you can endure.

It’s true though, because the idea of knowing that pushing yourself can lead to picking up the pieces when you fail is the hardest part. If there’s anything I’ve learned in life thus far is that you should always go for what you want, no matter the mistakes or disappointment it may lead to, because anybody around you that’s actually doing something took the risk. The pain that reminiscing on shoulda coulda woulda is far worse than anything, especially when you realize that you were the only thing standing in your own way of something great.

I think that you have to get yourself to the edge and persevere just when you’re about to crumble, then do or don’t. But constantly thank God for lessons learned when you take that risk, because you’re learning and growing on the way to where you want to be.

Remember that patience is a virtue so be patience with yourself, learn yourself, know yourself and push yourself to the limit. There’s everything to loose if you don’t.

-XoReminissy