Shh, I’m trying to Read!

Shh, I’m trying to Read!

So I guess I’m taking my own advice when I say that I’m finally getting back into reading! If you’ve been keeping up with my blog posts, you’d know that reading was one thing I mentioned as a part of protecting your vibe and doing things that you enjoy in order to preserve your peace. (https://ireminiss.com/2017/12/13/choose-your-vibe/). I’m currently reading In a Dark, Dark Wood by Ruth Ware, and I must say that it’s really good so far if you’re into some suspense and mystery while you read and the tone is really light and relatable for me.

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Ruth Ware’s In A Dark, Dark Wood.

I’m excited, because I’ve always loved to read ever since I was young, but it has been pretty hard to read for pleasure during the past few years. Partially because I never really had time to read while I was in school, while I was also working part time. But more so because I feel like I was going through a stage where I was trying to get out of reading young adult Fiction and more into some books and authors more appropriate for my age. I used to love to read Sarah Desson, they were young and sappy and comforting  for me, but now I just have a yearning for something more complex to keep me entertained, or else it’s just like watching a boring movie.

This I how I know that I’m really getting back to my old self, because this is like typical old me: always with my nose in a book. I don’t know, reading for me is just like the ultimate relaxation, it gives me alone time and quiet time for myself. The real fun in it is just getting lost in the words and in getting lost in your own imagination while wondering if the way you’re imagining the characters is how they actually are.

Hmm, what’s on your reading list? I’d love some new authors to get into. Let me know!

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-XoReminissy

Choose Your Vibe.

Choose Your Vibe.

Wow, it’s New Years already! I never realized how much could actually change in a year’s time. There’s been so many ups and downs, and tears and lows but, even in the worse situations these circumstances are only short lived, and the blessings reaped from the struggles make all the pain worth it. I haven’t been myself for a really long time, some years actually, but I feel myself slowly getting back to the old me. For the first time I finally feel like I can smile more, laugh more genuinely. My spirit is just so uplifted and this year I just want to hold on to it.

Now I normally do not make New Year’s resolutions, just because, but this year I just want to focus on my vibe and my inner peace. Here are 6 ways I feel like you can protect your vibe.

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Protect your vibe.

Demand your Respect. Don’t allow people to talk to you any kind of way, stand up for yourself. People will only get away with as much as you will allow, and they will walk all over you if they get the chance. Set the tone, demand your respect.

Say whats on your heart. It is important to choose your battles, but you should express whats on your mind freely and speak your truth when the time is relevant. Holding on to bad energy will burden you, and eat you alive. Communication should be your way to release your burdens and free yourself.

Make time for yourself.  Loving yourself and learning yourself is so important. You have to take a step back from your own world, where you will get consumed in doing things for those that you care about. Why not take some you time and go get a pedicure, get your hair done, read a good book. You deserve it!

Let go. You cannot receive your blessings when you hold on to those that are hindering you. Whether it be friends or family, it can be the ones closest to us that will hurt us, stress us out, and hold us back. It’s not being selfish for wanting to distance yourself from people who just aren’t good for your well-being overall.

Be yourself. The best feeling is being comfortable in your own skin. When you don’t have to hide your true self, your interests, your wants, your needs, your goals, your aspirations. It’s selfish and takes too much energy trying to change yourself for other people, so why would you?

Pray. Make time, because God is always on time. Always.

Don’t settle for less than what you deserve in life. You should have standards that are going to reflect you as an individual. At the end of the day you don’t want people or things around you who are ruining you and draining your energy. You choose your vibe, so you must protect it at all times!

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-XoReminissy

Blogmas day 11: Get back to, you.

Blogmas day 11: Get back to, you.

Sighh!

Christmas shopping is actually really annoying. Luckily I live close to the mall, but why are the stores so crowded every single time of day? I can see why people just save themselves the trouble and just shop online, but then what do I do when I need tangible things? I have to touch and sniff everything I need!

Honestly, after adding this to my day I just need to come home and clean up to clear my mind. I need to do repetitive stuff to clear my mind, it’s like it’s so easy to focus on without actually focusing on it. It’s pretty strange, but I love cleaning it’s so good for anxiety. I digress, but for a good purpose. I’m just trying to stress the fact that I need to recharge myself and recollect when I get home. I need to go sit by myself and daydream. No music no nothing just chill, relax, breathe.

There’s just something so intangible about taking the time to just sit and understand yourself, understand your own feelings. I love being able to, but I think it took a lot of practice to sit and listen to myself and actually hear what I’m saying. I guess I really need that time in my day because other people’s vibes and energies can be so draining. Its like they’re just projecting on to me all day, it is so stressful. That’s why I hate the stores!

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Maybe that’s why people meditate and what have you to help with things like that…I don’t know. I just never understood how important it was for me until like, just now. I just like to take the time to just recharge and get back to, ya know, me.

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-XoReminissy

Blogmas Day 4: Keep Up the Momentum.

Blogmas Day 4: Keep Up the Momentum.

Okay, so my attempt at Blogmas didn’t quite go as planned being that I only did day one so far, and it really wasn’t even Christmas related, and that’s okay I make my own rules! I digress but, I’m going to get back on it. It’s actually harder than I thought to blog every day because some days I just don’t feel inspired. Either I’m tired from my day, got sidetracked or I just don’t feel that bloggy. 

But even though we are tired, it’s said that we shouldn’t spend all day working for someone else and then come home and not work on our own dreams and aspirations. Hmm, that’s true. Of course, the pressure of life’s demands can get overwhelming at times, and it seems like there’s just not enough time to fit in what we want to do after spending so much time doing everything we have to do. Yea, everything we planned to do sounds great in our minds, but once we get around to it, our bodies are telling us something different. Lay down, get to it later. I mean, more than once a week I get up for work and I’m just like no, and I get off from work and I’m just like no, then I get home from work and I’m just like no! I don’t wanna!

We’re working towards our dream job, one that when we get it won’t actually feel like work. On the other hand, we’ve all had jobs that we don’t particularly like or what we’re doing has nothing to do with our degrees. It doesn’t make sense to us, but sometimes we gotta do what we gotta do. We take that job serving nights in college so we can work and go to school, we work that internship before serving for no pay so we can get that experience, we take that entry- level opportunity after school just to get our feet wet. These sacrifices enable us to save a little room to grow later.

There comes a time where we should consider the things that we aren’t satisfied with in life and find ways to change it. It’s hard because we have to learn how to use the things that we are unsatisfied with, to enable us to chase our dreams. Make the sacrifice and push yourself then keep up the momentum! Make a schedule and stick to it, set attainable goals, but don’t sell yourself short. Working on our own goals should make putting up with the things that enable us to work on our dreams worth it in the end. Because it will be worth it in the end!

I’m back on for Blogmas y’all!

-XOReminissy

A blogger and A Gamer, What It’s Really Like.

A blogger and A Gamer, What It’s Really Like.

I love being home, I grew into it though because I wasn’t like this as a teenager at all. Before being home felt like punishment, and my mom would always tell me that one day I’d enjoy being “bored”. It’s not even that now I enjoy being bored, it’s just that after a long day I just enjoy the peacefulness of being at home where everything is in order. It’s just a vibe at my house. The wines flowing, blunts burning, and the RnB is always playing. But then I forgot to mention the clicking. img_0429

I live with a gamer. Now, I mean if you’ve ever done this before you’d know that this is like having your mans best friend living in your living room…forever. There’s always cords and gadgets everywhere, remotes and controllers under my butt when I sit, but it’s funny though because it’s actually pretty entertaining to sit and watch. It looks so real. I forget it’s not even the TV playing when I’m watching 2k or Call of Duty. A typical day with this Xbox living in my house consists of me coming home to a bunch of click, click clicking, yelling at the TV and shit talking in the mic. I don’t even know how I manage to still think in peace! I just sit, and think and write, because I don’t even need much to do that. I’m just grateful for the headphones. I’m sure every gamer girlfriend is thankful for those gamer headphones where they can’t hear a damn thing when they play and neither can we. Thank you, Lord.

Blogging and gaming are so similar though, because in general people who do it probably like interacting with other people who just enjoy doing the same thing as them.  Gaming and blogging are communities, and at the end of the day bloggers want other bloggers to see their work, and share their stories. Gamers want other people to see them play games and talk shit to other people who think they’re better than them. I mean pretty much the same, right? What I mean is that we both want to let people into our personalities to see what we’re really like when we’re not just in our heads.

The key here is support, be with someone who supports your goals, who gets excited that you’re excited and wants get in your head and grow with you. Ultimately, if you’re going to be with someone maybe you should possibly be a little interested in what they’re into too. I mean if they’re passionate about it, it’s what’s going to keep them up at night so it’s what going to keep you up at night. When I’m woken up by all the shit talking and the clicking in the live stream, I just tell myself that this is what makes us happy and what probably brought us together. Every now and then, I’ll hop in the stream to see who’s in the chat and what everybody’s talking about just as I’m sure my guy reads my blogs.

This is us though, not too often you find someone who vibes the same way you do. So when you do, take some time out to show your girl or guy that you care. I watch his live stream while he reads my blog, that’s an A for sheer love and support!

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-XOreminissy

Blogmas Day 1: Time Flies

Blogmas Day 1: Time Flies

Wow time is flying, I can’t even believe it’s December already! With the New Year approaching I feel like this is the first time in my life where actually felt myself growing up. It seems like something clicked and now my mind is maturing, my body is evolving, I just feel something different in my soul.

As the days pass, I’m starting to realize that some things in life just aren’t worth fighting about, being stressed out about or arguing over. There’s so many things that are so much greater than your own situation and you never know what other people are going through in their daily lives. Everyday we’re hearing about mass shootings, riots, racism, violence, disasters. There’s people in our own country living without clean water to drink and living in sickness and without electricity. I just thank God in the mornings for waking me up each day.

Lately, I find myself thinking a lot about growing up, random little snippets of my childhood keep coming back to me and it seems like so long ago. It’s funny I’ll just hear a song or do something that reminded me of something else. Then I start thinking, damn it really is true that life is too short. Looking back 10 years ago feels like looking back yesterday and you be like, oh shit that was 10 years ago. But it’s crazy how we feel so young still.

We’re not so young anymore! On social media scrolling I see all my family and friends from back home growing up, getting married and starting families and I’m like damn, this is really what happens when you grow up. Pretty soon it’s probably going to be me, and I’m just patiently waiting my turn at these new chapters of life. I’ve just been feeling like all these feelings I’ve repressed from the past about family and friends and different situations doesn’t even matter anymore, because none of it is helping me move forward. It’s actually hurting me and hindering me from just living my best life and becoming who I’m supposed to be. I’m tired of letting how I grew up and people who’ve let me down dictate how I feel going about life in general, it’s just too depressing and I’m trying to move on.

Life is precious. I look at my family and I see them in a different way now. A little older in the face, more fragile and I get a little bit sad inside, because it seems like so much time has passed. I start thinking about all the time we wasted being mad and holding grudges and now we’re older and we can’t rekindle our relationships the way its supposed to happen naturally. It’s sad, because I wish I could go back and spend more time with family. I feel like I have a whole family out that I never even knew and probably will never know. I wish I could go back and change so many things, but time just goes on.

I feel like in another life I was born into a different time, a simpler time. I know that maybe I have always been different in my ways than my friends, and it used to scare me, because I just wanted to think like my age instead of my age plus like 20. Instead of enjoying myself I wanted everybody around me to understand me. Understand what I needed to be me. Understand what I needed to really be content with my life in general. All I need in life is Love, Solace and Organization. Solace + Love + Organization = Happiness. I need time alone with my thoughts, I need the kind of love that’s compassionate and empathetic and comforting and willing and delicate, and God if I don’t need organization, in every part of my life I don’t know what else. I know I found my happiness though and I love it. I love him, my Fabo. I never had to change any aspect of who I am for him and that’s why I feel like I’m starting to become who I really am. I feel like everything’s aligned and I’ve suddenly found my glory.

I didn’t know that growing into a woman would feel like this, finally paying more attention to the things in life that truly make me happy. I’m not even thinking about things I was 10 years ago. All the time I was crying over things that didn’t matter and constantly living in past, I never knew that one day I’d one day become someone so different who could love someone so differently, or shift my focus to the present. Now that December is here and the holidays are near I just want to focus on being a better person, focus on family and keeping everybody close. It’ll be a new year before we know it, and next year we’ll be looking back on how much more we’ve grown. Who will you become?

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-XOReminissy

Nostalgia, Reflection, Growth. (Making the same Mistakes)

Nostalgia, Reflection, Growth. (Making the same Mistakes)

This is starting to become a part of who I am. Looking back is a part of learning and growing and moving forward. I thank God every day for the past though, and lessons learned, and for the chances we get to not make the same mistakes. I’m truly grateful for the time we get to experience and mature, and it’s inevitable we all got to grow up sometime.

I knew I was growing up when I realized that the same patterns in my actions will yield the same results. And when I realized this, my life started to actually yield the results I wanted.

Results are what we want, but repetition is so easy and so comfortable, and a majority of the time it gets us nowhere. It just leads us down the same road of frustration and disappointment. I didn’t start getting somewhere until I decided to start taking some chances, dip my toe in, get my feet wet. Move to a different city, take a different job, be spontaneous. I spend a lot of time consulting with other people about what’s in my own heart. How can you even do that? A part of growing up is trusting your own gut, judging yourself off of what you’ve done in the past to know your own capabilities and what you can accomplish.

I think that a lot of the time the ones closest to us can also be the ones who could ultimately hold us back the most. They just know your mistakes. You also know your mistakes, and you know what you should, would, and could do. But there comes a time where we have to break free from our old habits and repetitive, negative actions.

It’s a simple formula really:

  • Nostalgia – Think Back (what was the situation),
  • Relfection -Think About It (what did you learn from this, what could I do different), and
  • Growth – Move Forward (don’t make the same mistake).img_0409

“…Repition is so easy and so comfortable, and a majority of the time it leads us nowhere.”

Know yourself, don’t let your old self get in the way of who you’re trying to become. The seasons changing, so it’s the perfect time to embrace it. You’re better off growing.

-XoReminissy