Life lyrics in a Song

Life lyrics in a Song

 

Happy Monday!

My sister shared this thread from a twitter post with me and it was talking about the different soulmates you meet during your life, and I absolutely know its true that you can have more than one soulmate, both romantic and platonic. Getting older I’ve realized that all relationships are about connections. I think growing up and going through trials has always brought forth the people in my life that know a different side of me, a more intuitive side. I get taken aback when I talk to them, because I forget how well they actually know me but, then I remember that the connection that we have is much deeper than words.

I honestly thank God for writing. I thank God for writing every single day. I feel like through writing, I’ve found such a sense of self and have been liberated to be who I really am. I can finally use this voice that I had silenced inside of me for so long, out of fear of being misunderstood. Through writing, I can express myself in the purest form, and thats all I’ve ever wanted in life, in a career and in any friendship or relationship.

I had a guy this weekend sit with me and go on and on telling me about how much money I can make if I do this, or go into this career, or sacrifice this for this, for this many years doing this. And I was honestly so irritated and anxious, because life and happiness for me has nothing to do with money and I’m willing to make sacrifices for things, yes. But only for what I’m most passionate about, whether that be a person, a career, or a feeling. Otherwise, you end up following someone else’s path, and living someone else’s dream life. 

I know I said that some connections you just can’t be put into words. But It’s kinda like, have you ever heard your whole life in the lyrics to a song? If not, I don’t know if we’re  on the same page… 💋

-Reminissy

 

 

 

 

Avenue of Memories.

Avenue of Memories.

“I like cherry blossoms too, they flourish for a short time but are splendid and in a certain sense represent the fragility and the transience of life. For a moment, the picture in which you are walking and the trees, reminded me of my grandmother when as a child we were walking under the mimosas in bloom. At the end everything changes in life, from situations to people. Sometimes changes can be faster or slower, and sometimes they do not depend on us. I like your post and then it is as if you are walking in an avenue of memories.”

-Anonymous

I received this comment one of my most recent blog posts When Blossoms Bloom.  At first glance I was thinking, wow this a really nice, reflective response filled with so much nostalgic energy. But it wasn’t until after rereading it again later on, more closely, I realized what the message in it really was. The idea of it was exactly what fueled me to get into writing my blog, because it had the energy I wanted my readers to feel.

The transience of life is something that I’ve been thinking about more and mores the idea of time. Just that feeling of getting older and realizing that time can be healing or damaging, or feel fast or slow, but you can never get time back. When you finally get to that age that you were always wishing to be as a child, begging to be even, and you realize that life isn’t exactly an easy thing to handle. And sometimes there are days when you wake up and miss the feeling of waking up feeling carefree on Saturdays and no worries on your mind. Looking back 20 years feels almost like yesterday, but then when you actually look around you realize that you’re a totally different person that has been tested, shaped and refined by life.

Life really is fragile in a sense, because nothing in this life is permanent. Every day I’m thinking of how I just want to go back to the 90s when all I cared about was Sunday night Skate 22, Rugrats movies, Pinho’s cupcakes and riding around in my mom’s old Ford Explorer in Roselle. And how I miss polaroid cameras and listening to Jon B. and Joe playing on the radio. I mostly miss how on those long rides to Cranford or Paramus, I used to always look out the window and watch the scenery and the trees flash by, just fast enough for my eyes to just catch the trees in their essence and their beauty. And now when I daydream I’m looking back, chasing this feeling of how can I get that feeling back? All thats left are the blurred memories.

I’m grateful for this message. I wanted my readers and everyone to read this and always remember that we should never take anything in life for granted, because things can change at any moment. The quote ended on the idea of this avenue of memories, and I love this, because I feel like at the end of the day thats all we’re left with. Memories of a time, of a song, of a feeling, of people. Whether we admit it or not, we’re all constantly longing for what used to be, but I guess to me that’s what reminiscing really is.

Thank you for this comment and to everyone whose been here reminiscing with me,  and encouraging me.

-XoReminissy

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Mystery Blogger Award!

Mystery Blogger Award!

 

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Thank you Dynaxty for thinking of me for this award! I love stopping by to get some much needed Word and uplifting scripture from your blog. I admire how all of the answers to your questions put the Word of God first, as life should be.

Rules:

  1. Put the award logo/image on your blog.
  2. List the rules.
  3. Thank whoever nominated you and provide a link to their blog.
  4. Mention the creator of the award and provide a link as well.
  5. Tell your readers 3 things about yourself.
  6. You have to nominate 10 – 20 people.
  7. Notify your nominees by commenting on their blog.
  8. Ask your nominees any 5 questions of your choice, with one weird or funny question (specify).
  9. Share a link to your best post(s).

Creator of the Award:

This blogging award was created by Okoto Enigma! Okoto created this award to be one that recognized authors for their blog being one that captivates, inspires and motivates. Now knowing what having been nominated means, I’m so honored and humbled! Thanks for creating this award and giving bloggers a chance to be able to nominate others who they have been inspired by. I think its awesome to show gratitude to those who have touched you and some how helped you to chase your dreams, because if you don’t tell them they’ll never know. Be sure to click the link above to her lifestyle blog and enjoy some tips on blogging, fashion and travel!

Three things about myself:

I turn 24 this May

I get embarrassed by compliments

I love the sound of waves crashing in the breeze

Link to My Best Post:

RVA Blues.

My Answers to Dynaxty’s questions:

  1. What sets you apart from everyone else? What sets me apart from everyone else is my resilience and my will to make sacrifices for the things that I want in life.
  2. What do you love about where you live? The thing I love most about RVA is the culture. There’s so much art, so many different cuisines, historic places to visit and always some festivals or events happening. Oh and the beer!
  3. How are you going to be spending Valentine’s day? I spent my Valentine’s Day hanging out with my guy, just enjoying each others company and watching some movies.
  4. Would you still write if WordPress seized to exist? If WordPress seized to exist I would definitely continue writing. I LOVE WordPress, but there are many other channels for blogging, as well as other channels to express yourself! When all else fails and I can’t get to my computer, I just journal. Journals are forever.
  5. How do you make seven even? (My weird question) Take out the S. LOL Good one, took me a while to figure that out!

My Nominees:

  1. damngirlgetyourshittogether.com
  2. becominghistapestry.com
  3. The Nerdy Lion
  4. In A Messy World
  5. Empowered
  6. Adorned in Armor
  7. MiddleMe
  8. Dominique J. Lavergne
  9. Life Images
  10. A Dynamic Mentality

My 5 questions for you:

How did you find your blogging style?

Who are some bloggers that you have collaborated with?

Is freelance writing something you are interested in?

Something people don’t know about you (weird)?

If you could fly anywhere for a day where would you go (funny-ish)?

Thanks again to Dynaxty for this nomination! I like having the chance to share some blogs that I like to keep up with. I follow a bunch of really good blogs and they’re all so different. The ones that I have shared today are some that I just recently followed or caught up with, but they’re all great. Make sure you stop by to check them out!

-XoReminissy

 

 

When Blossoms Bloom.

When Blossoms Bloom.

Isn’t the sight of Cherry Blossoms so reminiscent of the season changing? Whenever I see them I get that familiar feeling of May, flowers, warm breeze, and warm weather approaching. Spring fever! I think I’ve got it, and I’m not ashamed. I just want to open up my windows, get out for some fresh air, and breathe easy!

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When I saw this whole street lined at the curb with these beautiful trees, I was in awe because I love cherry blossoms they’re, nostalgic to me. They remind me of walking around Rahway as a teenager, down Cherry Street, near the train station and by my old dance studio. I was mostly shocked to see them here though, right in the middle of an area that is full of warehouse apartments, pavement, and brick walls. Not too many trees and shrubs. I mean I’ve seen some cacti around, but who doesn’t love flowers and the way they can light up the aesthetic of a city neighborhood?

This day was more to me than just going out to get some pretty pictures, though. I wanted to get these pictures for my blog so that I could share this experience. I had planned to go do a little shoot, but when I got up this Sunday morning it was overcast, it was cold, I was short on time because my mom was coming to visit and plus I wanted to go to Church. Immediately, I started thinking of every excuse not to go do this and just stay in bed, because the idea of it just seemed like more of an annoyance at this point.  But then I started thinking of those episodes of Top Model and how even when the models had just came from traveling abroad, they’re tired, its cold. They JUST DO IT! And that’s what sets them apart from everyone else that just continues to dream.

I wanted to capture this moment while they’re still in bloom as a reminder that the seasons are ever changing, and when you start having second thoughts about the things you have to do and sacrifice in order to make your dreams come true, just do it! The blossoms bloom even when its still cold and wintery, they just know their time. Your time is now.

-XoReminissy

Sunshine Blogger Award #2

Sunshine Blogger Award #2

WOW I’m super excited to have been nominated AGAIN for the Sunshine Blogger Award! Big THANK YOU to RudyMariee from Visionsandgiggles, for giving me this opportunity yet again to get myself and my blog out there for some new readers and also a chance to find some new bloggers to nominate!

Reading through her lifestyle blog, I became immediately inspired, as she shares her stories of some of the battles that she has gone through in her life. What’s most important is that RudyMariee is not afraid to let her readers into her battles, and she courageously shares her journey of how she maintains and overcomes. She’s an inspiration to me as I am sure she is for many other readers, and I’m so excited to keep up. Make sure you stop by and check out her blog, linked above!

Rules

  1. Thank the blogger who nominated you in your blog post and link back to her blog.
  2. Answer 11 questions that the Blogger asked  you.
  3. Nominate 11 new bloggers to receive the awards and write them 11 questions.
  4. List the rules and display the Sunshine blogger award logo in your post on your blog

My answers to RudyMariee’s questions:

  1. Where do you see yourself in 5 years? In 5 years I see myself living in the city, or by the beach somewhere like Cali or NYC, working in PR/Mass Comm. I can almost see myself free lancing, but we’ll see!
  2. If you could change one thing about our current world what would it be? If I could change one thing about our current world, it would be Colorism within the black community. Its something that’s always annoyed me, and I’m so glad all shades of brown are starting to be appreciated. Finally.
  3. Why did you stat blogging? I started blogging because I feel like writing and getting my feelings out has always been something that came natural to me. People closest to me know that I’m pretty much an open book, but I never thought that this type of hobby was something that I could ever pursue as a career. I went to school for Product and Brand Marketing, and now I realize all I want to do is brand myself. So what better way? I heard in church one day, or no I think from Steve Harvey that we have stop pushing away the things that we are drawn to do even if it seems like it would be something silly. He said that’s how we know what it is that we should pursue. So when I think about writing, its the only thing right now that I can literally push myself to do for work without it feeling anything but exciting and rewarding.
  4. What advice would you give to new bloggers? For new bloggers my advice would be to BE YOURSELF! I think that the only way to find your niche and attract the audience you want is to let them see who you really are. Overcoming the fear of that was the hardest step for me, but now it feels great, therapeutic even, to let my readers into real stories and experiences that I’ve been through. It was when I overcame this that my readers really started to engage with me, and It pushes me to  want to keep writing.
  5. What is the most interesting or most unusual thing about yourself? I think that the most unusual thing about myself is that I’m obsessed with cleaning. I’ll literally make time in any schedule to clean something, no matter if I’m going to be late, and I’m sure it could wait until later, doesn’t matter. And its not clean unless its Anissa Clean!
  6. What would be your idea of a perfect day? My idea of a perfect day would be to wake up in a hotel by the beach, go out for pancakes and unlimited mimosas for breakfast, go for a nice bike ride along the beach, take a walk hand in hand on the sand, watch the sunset with some apricot blue moons, kick back watching Definitely, Maybe with some Haagen Dazs coffee ice cream? I’m all about relaxation, simplicity and romance!
  7. What are you most passionate about? I would say that I am most passionate about love. Everybody needs love.
  8. What are you planning to do differently in 2018 in regards to your blog? Though I started my blog up at the end of last year, this year I am planning to be a lot more consistent with posting, advertising and sticking to my schedule. I realized that I do actually have a lot of time on my hands which I could definitely use to work on my blog. Everyday for the past couple of weeks I work on my blog from 3:30- 6pm faithfully, I’ve stuck to my schedule. When I decide to post I set a deadline for myself, which is usually 6pm to get it done without distraction. I’ve also started to use social media to my advantage when I do put up a blog post, so that family and friends know its out there and can like comment and share also! So I want to keep up with this, because its been working great for me.
  9. Have you found anything in particularly difficult during your blogging journey? The one thing that I find is most difficult is taking time out to find new blogs to follow. It’s not as easy as it seems, just because it takes A LOT of time, but when I do stumble upon one its so rewarding. Even when you think you’re into a specific type of blog or writing style you could become captivated in a different type, because of a story they told or because something they said resonated in you.
  10. What kind of books do you enjoy reading? I’m somewhat of a hopeless romantic, so I really enjoy reading fiction love stories, those are my favorite. I used to really love Sarah Dessen and Nicholas Sparks books as a teenager, because that’s what they’re mainly about. I also like a good mystery, but still with some ounce of love in it. I haven’t had the chance to read for pleasure as much now as a young adult, but anyone who really knows me knows I’ve always loved to read and I really do get excited about a good, fresh, crisp book! (Psst..Drop me some authors!)
  11. If you could be anyone for 24 hours, who would it be and why? If I could be anyone for 24 hours, I’d probably be Carrie Bradshaw. Sex and the City is easily my favorite series, and I loved Carrie’s character in the show. She’s young, sassy, and stylish, and her guy is old and stubborn, but she tames him. I think that in some ways her lifestyle is alluring to me, she’s just writing her column, hanging with her friends and looking for love. Again, I’m a hopeless romantic, who loves the idea of love and plus who wouldn’t want to be 30 out in New York City, writing about it. I would!

Thank you for these questions, they really do get me thinking about life! Its been taking me some time to finish up this post for that reason, and also because I’ve been wanting to take time out to find some other bloggers to nominate!

My 11 nominees:

  1. Makupsy
  2. Rachel Clark
  3. Dreamfilleddaughter
  4. MyVicariouslife
  5. Rhapsody Bohème 
  6. Aphorisms 
  7. MakeupManiac
  8. The Godly Chic Diaries
  9. GracePaced†
  10. Pure Glory
  11. dynaxty

I honestly love all of your blogs, and I always enjoy stopping by to catch up and let you know you know my reactions to your posts!

 My 11 questions for you:

  1. What inspires you to keep up with your blog?
  2. What is your favorite thing to do on rainy days?
  3. What is your ideal profession?
  4. What are some things you have learned about yourself through blogging?
  5. Do you cook? What is your favorite dish to make?
  6. How do you feel about forgiveness?
  7. Cats or Dogs?
  8. Where is your favorite place to vacation?
  9. What’s on your playlist right now?
  10. Any advice you would give aspiring bloggers?

Thank you again to visionandgiggles for this nomination! I love responding to these posts and having the chance to share some of the really good blogs I’ve been following. Be sure to check them out!

-XoReminissy

RVA Blues.

RVA Blues.

Everyone expects to graduate from college after years of focus and dedication and land their dream job right away. And although it seems like the idea of it is, nothing short of deserved, it usually isn’t the case for most people. It definitely wasn’t like that for me. I chose a major that was interesting to me and and fun to learn, but when I got into the workplace I found that maybe it really wasn’t my thing. I tried it. I tried management, I tried sales, I tried Human Resources, I tried customer service, I tried restaurant, I tried recruiting. I tried writing.

Since college, I feel like I’ve been bouncing around everywhere. From town to town, job to job. And now I’m stuck in rut because I feel like I know what I want to pursue, but just not how to pursue it fully.

Until now, I was kind of embarrassed that I’m in a new role like every few months, or going back to serving every time I quit a place. It was starting to become a joke where my managers were betting how long it would be until I’d be back again. But aside from that, every job has potential to teach you skills that you’ll be able to take with you to any job.

When I look back, every one of those jobs taught me something vital to my success in anything. I learned how to be administrative, I learned how to interact with people, be prompt,  I learned how to manage, how to pitch myself, there’s literally a million things. If pursuing writing means I need to have these things in order to be able to start a free lancing business, I already have those skills so why not. Skills are instilled.  You bring whatever skills you have, or acquire, to the table in anything you go after.

I got to talk to an old professor recently, Dr. Mier. He checks in on us from time to time. I was telling him about how I’m going through this post- collegiate blues. What stood out to me, aside from his new consulting firm, was how he just told me that it sounds like I’m doing great, and that it sounds like I’m figuring it out. It’s true though, I figured out that I really do like writing so why shouldn’t I pursue it? I just need to keep telling myself that I have what it takes to be successful in running my own business. And him starting a consulting firm makes me realize that you should just go after whatever makes you happy. Where do you derive happiness?

I realized I shouldn’t be all that embarrassed. I don’t see the point in spending time in any career that you find early on that you just cannot see yourself doing for 30, 40 years. Like no, that’s just not how I am. I’m absolutely not knocking anyone who does that, I’m just saying that I personally just cannot imagine hating my job until I retire. I derive happiness from staying intrigued and busy and challenged, but unbothered and autonomous and entertained, all at the same time. And I think that many of these things could come with working for myself, it could be very rewarding and fun!

The post collegiate blues can be hard to go through and get over. Shifting your main focus from studying and going to class, to bills and chasing your dreams kind of seems like night and day. Just remember to chase the things in life that you’re drawn to do, and things that make you happy doing it. And even if you absolutely hate a job or have hated a job and never want to look back at it, it’s never a total loss. You’d be surprised how much more prepared you will feel in life if you just look back on jobs or on any negative experience in life with a positive mindset and realize the gains.

Well, I’m back in RVA now and this is the first time in the three times that I’ve been back that I actually feel like I know what I’m doing, thank God for that. There’s art everywhere, the view is good, the city lights are bright and there’s a mural outside my window that makes me feel like I’m getting a new chance. The energy is inspiring, it feels like the perfect place to start over, and this time with a purpose.

-XoReminissy

Peach Lemonade.

Peach Lemonade.

As you grow older you start to look at things from a totally different point of view. You realize the things your parents probably went through, but shielded you from. You realize what a bitchy teenager you used to be. You stop dwelling on small things, because when you look at the bigger picture you know that there are many other colossal things to stress about. You realize what’s important. When you’re up in life you learn things. Things about life, about the world, about about yourself, about people. When your circumstance allows you to hit rock bottom, it changes you and you learn even more, but overnight.

I’m starting to think that at any age circumstance is life’s biggest teacher, and how you respond to different circumstances is an even bigger realization of your character and who you are becoming.  I’ve learned the most about myself through the worst situations, and right at the beginning of the year when everything is supposed to be peachy and sweet.

Life will not always be peachy, and if it was we’d never appreciate the liberation of getting through rough times. Now I’ve been sitting with this for some weeks actually, and I guess I was having a hard time putting what I felt into words, but I knew once I was ready the words would come and I’ve been looking forward to the moment when I could share some of the things I’ve learned so far in 2018.

Courage

I don’t think I’ve ever really understood the true meaning of being courageous until now. It seems like something you have to have to make it through scary situations, but there’s more to it than that. Encouraging someone is like instilling the will into them that they need but don’t have, so having courage is like instilling that same will into yourself. Courage is important, because at some point you’re going to be broken and the journey ahead is going to be foggy and uncertain, and that courage inside you is going to lead the way to get you through.

Strength

In Church I learned that sometimes we allow our negative feelings about something or towards something prevent us from moving forward. Feels are inevitable, but even if you feel hurt, angry or discouraged, feelings can’t kill you. There’s truth in this, because there are times when it really does feel like the way we feel during a situation is killing us when it’s too hard to bare. But sometimes you have to swallow your feelings at that moment or for how ever long you need to, to stay focused on what your plan is to overcome. Feelings will not kill you!

Sacrifice 

What are you willing to do for the things you want in life? What are you willing to sacrifice? What if you had to sacrifice your vices, your alone time, your comfort, your stability? Would you do it? You have to know your reasons to do what you have to do, and for you. Always.

Love

I don’t know too many things about love, but the heart wants what it wants and it can be consuming. Don’t wear your heart on your sleeve, don’t be too transparent. Listen, reciprocate, empathize and support and never let your own emotions get in the way of hearing someone’s point of view.  Give and receive love, but never let your love be abused and misused. Love yourself first, foremost, and fully, no matter what it takes.

Privilege

Sometimes its hard to accept the cards you’ve been dealt in life, even I’m guilty of being envious of things that other people were blessed to have and I wasn’t. I guess its only natural, but privilege in life doesn’t mean anything if you take it for granted rater than use it to your advantage. You cannot dwell on the things that you don’t have in life, because you’re given what you need in life. Whether it be money, material things, drive or ambition, you have everything you need inside of you to be all you can be.

Faith

I wasn’t raised in a church, but I was definitely raised to pray. I used to only do it because I was told to though, so I never really experienced the sheer power in prayer or the miracles that could happen when you stay faithful to God. I never knew the pure joy of deliverance, or the feeling of knowing that I’d been delivered until God was the only one I could depend on. I had never even experienced Joy, until I started to depend on God, and now I know that He always knows what’s in your heart. There’s peace and happiness when you find a Church you like, a gospel song that touches you or a bible verse that speaks to you. I’m proud that I have come to faith on my own and on my own terms, and without the pressure of anyone’s influence, because there’s beauty in prayer and spiritual awakening.

Patience

The grass isn’t always greener on the other side. Our perceptions of what’s good for us always gets in the way and you can’t let perception blind your reality. When the road gets rocky, don’t always be so quick to assume that a decision that works well for the short term will also work well in the long run. Be patient, persevere, and learn to wait for greater chances for greater outcomes.

Adaptation

The idea of change used to be scary for me and its true that in the past dealing with change has been very uncomfortable, but through adaption comes evolution.  I’ve learned that you have to adapt to every situation you find yourself in. See the positive and the opportunities that change presents, because that’s the only way you’ll survive. I mean, even animals do it.

“I’ve learned the most about myself through the worst of situations, and right at the beginning of the year when everything is supposed to be peachy and sweet.”

There’s courage in strength, strength in sacrifice, sacrifice in love, patience in faith, adaption in privilege. In life nothing is ever guaranteed or guaranteed to stay peachy and sweet, but be fruitful when life starts throwing you lemons and just make lemonade. You have no choice!

-XoReminissy