Winning Starts With Beginning… — When I’ m With You… Whitney Ibe Blog!

Happy Sunday!

And just like that the season has shifted.

Winning starts with beginning.

Let that sink in.

I enjoyed reading this today, it kind of went along with my theme for the week that you cannot give up no matter what. Even when you feel like every step you take goes in vain, each incremental step forward adds up to something greater. Keep moving forward, try new things, meet new people, create new experiences. Conquer the little steps and thrive off of the small victories you take.

I receive this Whitney, thanks for sharing with us. Everyone head over to Whitney Ibe Blog to read the full blog post, always one of my favorite blogs to feature. 💋

Winning starts with beginning…

via Winning Starts With Beginning… — When I’ m With You… Whitney Ibe Blog!

Actions Speak Louder.

Actions Speak Louder.

I don’t think I could ever be with an actor. I mean, an actor can literally play the role so how would you know if they’re telling the truth? How would you know what character they decided to play for you?

I’m learning to spend more time getting to now the character of a person, because chances are if someone would do something fucked up to someone else, they’d probably do the same to you. I used to have the mentality that since I’m in a relationship with someone they’d ride for me the way I’d ride for them. And when I say relationship, I mean romantic or plutonic, because friendships are relationships too.

I’d assume it was a given, but sadly most people are just thinking of themselves in relationships. The decisions they make and things they do revolve around what’s convenient for them and they play it off like it’s all about us.


Character of a person is important. Certain character traits can tell you about a person’s values, morals, intentions. More importantly it’ll tell you how they will react in certain situations. Are they easily angered? Do they keep their word? Are they loyal?

I wonder what its actually like to date an actor, how do you know which character they’re putting on that day? I admit I fall victim to words. Even though actions speak way louder, I hold on to them while people just tell me what they think I want to hear. I admit I have a bad habit of taking everyone at face value and of expecting everyones word to be their bond. But I thought that’s just how it should be, right?

You know when certain actors play a role so well that you wonder if they’re really just being themselves? That’s scary. I learned that it can get a little tricky dealing with people who can easily flip their script and play a certain situational role, like easily playing Mr. Nice Guy with their shit together in company, but behind closed doors they’re crumbling and don’t have a clue of how to react when shit starts hitting the fan. I can’t deal with that.

I feel like courting someone is very important. You need time to learn their character, to let all their truths come spilling out like vomit, and learn who they really are behind closed doors. Their intentions and words should always be backed up by action.

Like, what character are you today?






Oh, Mondazeeee.

Going through life, it’s crazy how certain people and the things they tell you always seem to stick with you. You find your self in a situation and the most unlikely person starts becoming your inner voice. Ive been thinking about the 90210 video a lot lately, I guess because in the video Travie be looking at himself talking to his Granny. That’s really how it is though. You be looking at yourself in the mirror talking to the you you used to be, speaking all kinds of life into yourself.

I’ve been surprised at who my inner voice has become lately, telling me to go everywhere and do everything. It told me recently that you can’t fall in love with potential and it was telling me years ago that I’m an independent Queen, and that I don’t need nobody. Now its telling me to unclip my wings.

Ain’t it also crazy how music has that power to evoke a kind of nostalgia in you that you forgot existed? I was listening to Closer by Goapole this morning and I literally cried, because I had the most familiar feeling of chasing my dreams. I was thinking back to when my blog was nothing more than just words in my iPhone in my notepad, and the day I decided to write my first blog I wrote, “I’m grown and I have grown. Mood: Content. Song: Closer.”

I almost never read my old blogs, I just write them and leave them where they are as my way of leaving my feelings right there on the page. I was shocked reading this one though, I had forgot all about it. But I know myself well enough to know that I’m back in that same exact mindset. The one where I know where I’m going, and in what direction I’m heading. Reading through that blog, I was talking to myself from May 2017 and I was telling myself some real shit. Oh the beauty of leaving words behind, for real. I guess if I would’ve actually read it over, and took the advice, I would’ve never let someone come swoop me off my feet with some nonsense. Then proceed to fall head over heels, right out of my frame of mind.


If old habit serves me correctly, (and it will) I’d say I’m right on track to have someone come creeping in out of the corner of my eye and throw me right off track, but it’s not going to happen. Not a chance. I won’t even put myself in the position to take one mere step backward, because I’ve been thinking way too much about where I want to be in a couple years. And it’s lightyears away from here. Deep down I know that RVA can’t be where I stay, because it was never the plan. I came here on a mission to evolve and to move forward and now I’m craving a different kind of energy, a certain kind of artistry, and I’ve got a feeling there’s finally a different city calling my name. I got this nervous itch now, because I know it’s coming sooner than I know.

I just hope I’m ready.

But I’ve been ready. If my vibe had an age I’d say I’ve been 24 all along. I’ve just been patiently getting my ducks in a row and bobbing and weaving through the bad apples. I just hope that everybody on my team right now, at this moment, stays on my team forever. I finally got my team! Their paths aligned with mine at precisely the right moment and now their voices the only ones in my head now pushing me to move forward.

Whose voices you got running through your head?

Better make sure it’s the right ones, because there’s plenty of people out here watching your every move. Preying and praying on your downfall, ready to bite off anything just to get that energy you got. Surround yourself with nothing but positivity, good vibes and Lord, good energy. Energy is literally EVVerything. Be where you can fly and beware of those out here just trying to clip your wings.💋




Monday Motivation: It’s Not Yours

Monday Motivation: It’s Not Yours

Happy Monday everyone, let’s do it!

Don’t worry, I’ll be back with more A Seat at The Table Podcast next week. But this morning I was listening to some Yolanda Adams, and I thought this message was a good one to get your week started.

No matter what you’re going through, remember that God is only using you. For the battle is not your, it’s the Lord’s.

Amen, have a good week💋

Monday Motivation: Be Encouraged

Monday Motivation: Be Encouraged

It’s Monday again, and I’m back to share another A Seat at TheTable Podcast for Motivation Monday! In this week’s episode the cast talks about the importance of encouragement and staying grateful. Be sure to click the link to this weeks episode, and to find other episodes from the cast!

A Seat at the Table

We live in a world today where people are hiding so much pain and its hard to find strength and encouragement to endure. In this episode the cast talks about how all you need is one reason to keep pushing, and maybe what it all comes down to are the things in life you have to be grateful for.

Gratitude has been one of my biggest encouragers. When I wake up in the morning I thank God for another day, for my family, my friends, my health, my car, my job, because in the words of A Seat at the Table, there is always someone praying for the things in life that you take for granted.

You may not have all the support you need around, or you’re looking to friends or family to validate your every decision. But sometimes, all you need is to look to yourself and encourage yourself. Speak life over your dreams and goals, and then speak life over someone else’s. Be that one reason someone needs to keep shinning and keep pushing, or that one person someone has to be grateful for.

Speak over yourself, encourage yourself 💋